The
Love of a Man and a Woman by
Arya Putra
The
love of a man and a woman is a reflection of the love of the Self for the Supreme
Self. It is a shadow of the love of the Soul for GOD
(the Supreme Soul). Love
is real, but we only find real love when we stop looking for it in the wrong places. How can you find love in someone else if you
haven’t discovered it within your own self? Once
you discover (uncover) that Love within your self, no one can take that away.
In fact, no one can give you what you already have. But when the other has the same love that you
have, you can share that love together. The
problem is that most people do not share real love.
Instead, they share their mind games. Love
is NOT emotional hole-filling. When we
are full of love we can share it without any fear of losing it, because real love
is both beginingless and endless.
Real love is Eternal. Is
there no longing or desire in real love? Certainly
there is longing and desire, because these feelings point the way to (allude to)
the highest heaven, to Liberation (Moksha). The longing for affection is natural, and the
desire for intimate experience is healthy. Human
beings long for affection and desire the deepest pleasure because the soul wants
to feel totally alive and vibrantly whole. The core of our being (Atman) wants to experience
the union with God (Moksha) and can never be fully satisfied
until this YOGA is attained. The
natural longing and desire in a man and woman compels them to look beyond themselves. The wisdom of Consciousness then guides them
to look within. In the purified chamber
of the heart, they realize the true nature of love, and know without any doubt
that true love is absolutely painless, because it is absolutely selfless. This ‘knowing’ takes them ‘upward,’ beyond themselves.
The
opposite of real love is love born out of self-involvement. Self-involved love
makes us ‘outward bound,’ whereas the love of the Self (the Real Self) makes us
‘upward’ bound. True love always raises our consciousness.
False love always ‘raises hell.’ In other words, false love is self-seeking,
which is why it is always looking for excitement, whereas true love is based on
commitment and loyalty to one’s higher nature (which is the Higher Nature of everyone).
In real love, we see our self as a soul and we see the other as a soul.
Love
is God and God is Love. Are there different Gods? No. God
is One and Indivisible, but is manifested in many ways, and all those ways are
GOOD. The ways of Love are good, whether manifested as the relationship between
a man and a woman, a parent and a child, a brother and a sister, or a friend and
friend. All these relationships are a drama, and the drama is meaningful only
from the perspective of the soul. From the perspective of the mind filled with
images and unreality, these relationships are also a drama but that drama is essenceless, it is just a play of the mind and NOT a play
of the divine. True
relationships of love are a divine play, a Lila, a divine Game, a divine Sport.
To win, we have to play by the rules (the laws of Consciousness), which have been
spelled out in the scriptures and interpreted by the Wise. Stay
positive, stay inspired, and stay away from people who will hurt you by using
you as an object of their mind and ego. You will realize the essence of love when
you realize your own essence.
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